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Thursday, March 27, 2025

Avoiding Spiritual Extremes

 

There’s a Hebrew proverb that goes like this:

“Ponder the path of your feet; then all your ways will be sure. Do not swerve to the right or to the left; turn your foot away from evil.” (Proverbs 4:26-27)

Why not swerve to the left or to the right? It has nothing to do with politics, its because there’s a ditch on both sides of the path and either one will ultimately lead to “evil”.  Joshua 1:7 also tells us to not turn to the right nor the left but stick with the path that the Scriptures prescribe.

When one reads the Bible in its wholeness, we see a principle of avoiding spiritual extremes or “ditches”.  On the one extreme there is legalism, repression and self-righteous morality; on the other side of the spectrum is lust, indulgence and reckless disobedience. Think of the Galatians on one side and the Corinthians on the other. Both extremes are unhealthy and unhelpful. Both lead to evil. 

We also see these two extremes when we read the Parable of the Prodigal Son, which should really be called the Parable of the Two Sons. 



We are probably familiar with the “prodigal” son who insults his loving father by demanding his inheritance early and then spending it all on sinful living. He later comes back in utter humility and repentance to the arms of his forgiving father.

But what about the other son? The older brother who stayed behind faithfully and worked his father’s land? He turns out to be no better than the prodigal but in the opposite extreme. He refuses to forgive his younger brother and becomes angry at his father for showing such grace to him. This brother’s heart was proud, but the father also comes out to the him in grace and love to try and soften his heart.

While the younger brother fell into what we might call the “left ditch” ( or the Corinthian side), the older brother fell into the “right ditch” (or the Galatian side). 

So, what is the proper path between the left and right excesses? What is the narrow way between self-righteous morality and reckless disobedience?  It is walking in God’s grace. The same grace exemplified by the father in the parable (who represented God).

Grace* is the via media between the extremes of the two sons. 

In three places, Scripture tells us that “God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.” (Proverbs 3:34, James 4:6 1 Peter 5:5) 

We see then that humility makes way for grace and the avoidance of these two spiritual extremes. But pride loves extremes, doesn’t it? It loves to pry us from the path of Jesus’ grace.

Whether it’s the arrogance of the younger son, or the haughtiness of the older son, let’s make no mistake, this type of prideful extremism is not honouring to God.

Let’s also be clear that walking in grace is not a compromise of our beliefs: it is, instead, the fullest and most beautiful expression of our beliefs. Grace and truth came by Jesus Christ and we must walk in his way.

Here is a personal confession: I am an extreme type of person. Like the pendulum on a clock, my tendency is to swing to the extremes, rarely resting in the middle. For me, usually it’s the “right ditch” I fall into, but not always.

I often pray that the Lord would keep me from extremes; that He would help me “ponder my path”. Join me in praying that He would deliver us from all forms of pride and lead us in the way of grace.


* Grace is God's unmerited favour towards us. It is receiving something we did not deserve and could never earn. 

“The redeeming work of Christ and the righteousness He won for us, equally with the work of the Spirit in us and the power of the new life He brings, are spoken of as “grace”.  Andrew Murray


Monday, January 27, 2025

Gentle Men: Why Gentleness Makes Us Masculine


“I am gentle and lowly in heart.” Jesus Christ


While the term ‘gentleman’ has historically referred more to being well-bred then well-mannered, today we often see it as a compliment of a man’s character. Indeed, as far back as 1714, Sir Richard Steele wrote, 

“The appellation of Gentleman is never to be affixed to a man’s circumstances, but to his Behaviour in them.” 

However you define gentleman, the Bible makes it clear that gentleness is one of the greatest attributes of a man (or anyone, for that matter). Some men might misunderstand the term and balk at ‘gentleness’ being used to describe them. 

But, Gavin Ortlund, one of my favourite theologians, defines gentleness this way, 

"Gentleness is not weakness: it is strength under control."

As men, we are to protect the weak and vulnerable and treat them with gentleness. As men, we are protected by God and treated with gentleness, because in his presence we are the weak and vulnerable ones. Even the Apostle Paul was compelled to say that God’s strength is made perfect in our weakness (2 Corinthians 12:9-10). 

As I get older, I am more and more convinced that the voice of God to us is gentle and kind. The still small voice spoken to Elijah can also be translated as a “gentle whisper” (1 Kings 19:11-13). Charles Spurgeon once preached that, “Softly and gently works the Holy Spirit.” So then, our voice and actions to others must also be gentle and kind. 

If we need more Scriptural proof that men are called to be gentle as well as strong, let us consider these passages:



> Jesus Himself, the God-man, describes his own heart (the very centre of who he is) as gentle and lowly (Matthew 11:29, 2 Corinthians 10:1).

> One of the nine fruits of the Spirit is gentleness (Galatians 5:23).

> Paul taught believers everywhere to be gentle (Ephesians 4:2, Colossians 3:12, Titus 3:2). 

> Paul describes how the Apostles treated the Thessalonians as an exhorting and encouraging father as well as a gentle “nursing mother” (1 Thessalonians 2:7, 11-12). 

> A qualification for a church leader (Bishop, Elder etc.) is gentleness (1 Timothy 2:7).

> One of the characteristics that a ‘man of God’ should pursue is gentleness (1 Timothy 6:11)

> The wisdom from above is gentle (James 3:17).


We also learn that gentleness is required when:

> Attempting to restore a brother or sister to the faith (Galatians 6:1)

> Sharing the gospel or defending the faith with reverence (1 Peter 3:15).

> Correcting an opponent with the hope of leading him to repentance (although a sharp rebuke is sometimes necessary as well - 1 Timothy 2:25, Titus 1:3)


Gentleness is prescribed throughout the Bible including these two proverbs:

“A gentle tongue is a tree of life, but perverseness in it breaks the spirit.” Proverbs 15:4

“Through patience a ruler can be persuaded, and a gentle tongue can break a bone.” Proverbs 25:15

The Lord is calling us to be not just gentlemen but gentle men; to use our strength for good. May we pursue this virtue so that we can say with King David, 

“You have given me the shield of your salvation, and your right hand supported me, and your gentleness made me great.” Psalm 18:35