Good article on the biology of fatherhood!
Daddy Super Powers
Daddy super powers
Ready
or not, you’re a dad! Don’t worry — nature is tweaking your brain and body in
ways that’ll ensure you’re just the right man for the job
Peter
McMahon
You’d swear
Andy Corbett was a martial arts expert — or a plainclothes superhero. He’s
sitting at a picnic table with his sons, Pierce, four, and Garret, two, when
his hand darts out to catch a falling sippy cup in mid-air. Calmly, he places
it back on the table and continues to tuck into the lunch he’s sharing with the
boys at a chili cook-off near their home in Peterborough , Ont.
I’ve
definitely noticed an increase in my reflexes since I’ve become a father,”
Corbett says, rescuing the second cup. “It’s a handy skill,” he continues, nonplussed.
“It’s prepared me to catch the boys before they fell off climbers or slides.”
Does
Corbett’s calm preparedness come from simple practice, or is there an innate
sort of Spidey sense attached to being a father? And what other parenting
skills are specific to the male of the species?
In vitro
fertilization won the 2010 Nobel Prize for Physiology or Medicine — a reminder
to women that an ongoing male presence, or, heck, even mating, are no longer
requirements for making a baby. Even pop culture riffs on the topic: In a
recent episode of TV’s The Big Bang Theory, Sheldon is given a
napkin used by his hero, the actor who played Spock in Star Trek. He posits that with
a viable ovum and DNA from the napkin, he could “grow” his own Leonard Nimoy.
But while
modern science at least comically allows us to consider life without dads, a
number of recent studies show that kids are better off having them around.
Researchers at the University
of California concluded
in a 2006 study that fathers actually play a larger role in speech development
than moms. They found that, on average, dads spend less time engaged in “baby
talk” and tend to use larger words. This more challenging means of
communication may stimulate baby’s vocabulary and encourage the development of
complex language concepts such as wit and sarcasm (which we planned for all
along…).
This is the
time of life when a man goes from relishing that satisfying burp after downing
a good beer to revelling in the satisfaction of burping the little person he’s
co-created. Male brains change with the onset of fatherhood — but science still
hasn’t figured exactly how or to what degree.
“Research
suggests that having a child is a strong motivator for behavioural change in
men,” says Joy Johnson, scientific director of the Institute
of Gender and Health in Vancouver . Changes could
result in a dad quitting smoking, exercising more so that he can play with his
kids, and cutting back his drinking. “There isn’t yet concrete evidence to that
effect, though. Reproductive health focuses almost exclusively on women, but
fathers are playing an increasing role in parenting and we need to support them
better,” says Johnson. To that end, the institute recently launched funding for
research on men’s health issues, including fathering.
Independent
of this initiative, Samuel Weiss, a professor and director of the University of Calgary ’s Hotchkiss Brain Institute, has
discovered that fathering may set up male brains on a cellular level for
looking after their young. “There have been lots of anecdotal studies that
suggest mothers form a bond through smell with babies, and that continues for a
time, perhaps a lifetime,” says Weiss. “But similar things hadn’t been
documented with males.” That is until May 2010 when Weiss and his team
discovered that as male mice interacted with their newborn babies, new brain
cells developed in each father’s olfactory bulb (the part of the brain
responsible for sense of smell) and in the hippocampus (which is responsible
for memory). Weeks after the fathers were separated from their babies, they
retained a bond with the young they were able to smell, and could distinguish
their offspring from unrelated mice. In other words, the mouse fathers who
spent time with their young never forgot them.
This is your body on fatherhood
It all
starts with “sympathy weight” — the tendency for men to pack on pounds when
their partners are pregnant. According to a 2009 OnePoll survey published in The New York Times, men gained an
average of 14 pounds while the women in their lives were expecting. The dads
themselves suggested four main reasons for bulking up: eating out more with
baby on the way; more snacks available around the house; intentionally gaining
to make their partners feel better; and eating larger portions served by their
partners. And while weight gain is just one of the trials new parents undergo
(sleep deprivation, anyone?), research is revealing dramatic hormonal changes
specific to men when they become dads.
During and
after a partner’s pregnancy, dads’ testosterone levels fall as much as 33
percent, according to researchers at Memorial
University in St. John’s . While both men and women produce
this sex hormone (men, in their testes, and women, in their ovaries),
testosterone is what makes men archetypically male: Among other things, it’s
responsible for healthy sperm production, and is linked to risk-taking and
aggression. So it’s thought that lower levels of testosterone prepare Dad to be
more nurturing and understanding, and encourage him to want to comfort his
newborn child rather than compete with baby for Mom’s affection.
At the same
time, new fathers often experience an increase in the female hormone prolactin,
which is known to prompt many animals to nest. And research shows that just 15
minutes of baby cuddling can increase dads’ prolactin levels by up to 20
percent. Scientists at the University
of Toronto have found
that men with high prolactin levels are also more likely to be alert to their
babies’ cries.
Could
prolactin also be at the root of the razor-sharp reflexes that dads like Andy
Corbett call upon every day? Science hasn’t corroborated that link yet, but
certainly many dads report developing a sort of parenting ESP. Joe Terry of
Cobourg, Ont., says he has a sixth sense for knowing when his six kids, ages
one through 10, are in a precarious situation. And sometimes that heightened
awareness of impending danger is for his own protection: “When you’re sitting
on the couch and your kids come flying through the air, they always seem to
land on your crotch,” Terry jokes.
Being armed
with that sixth sense for danger has made Andy Corbett more comfortable with
letting his young boys play beyond arms’ reach. “I’m not afraid to let them go
off on their own, thanks to earlier scares when my senses were tingling” — a
reliable signal that one of his sons would need help.
Sometimes
the instinct to protect can give rise to some, er, uncharacteristic behaviours,
as Shawn Drake,* a Hamilton dad of two teen
daughters, discovered on a family vacation in Cuba . A young man who’d been
drinking approached Drake’s daughters, threatening them. “There was just
something visceral that went off,” Drake recalls. Like a superhero protecting
the innocent, he leaped in front of the assailant — and landed a punch.
Afterward, Drake got a lecture from one of his daughters, but an off-to-the-side
smile from his wife.
That
protective instincts like Drake’s may be innate is no surprise to Samuel Weiss,
the researcher from Calgary .
In seeking to show how “father-enhancing” cells grew in the brains of mice,
Weiss has provided the strongest evidence yet that fathering is built right
into the minds and bodies of mammals. “I think the message this sends is that,
given the opportunity, males can rise to the occasion and demonstrate a
significant capacity for interactions and important long-term bonds with
offspring,” says Weiss. Translation: Give dads a chance and they make great
parents.
You probably
already knew that. But it sure is good to get backup from those guys in the
white lab coats.
*Name
changed by request.
Celebrity Dads on fatherhood
Rowan
occasionally picks up a guitar and writes a song. Any time a microphone is on
in the studio, they all need their turn at recording themselves singing. It’s
also getting to the point where sitting down for a meal with them is
mind-blowing. The questions are fascinating, as you can imagine from curious
five- and six-year-olds. – Raine Maida,
musician, dad to sons Rowan, Lucca and Salvador
When I was
25 and Jane was born, I realized I had to live for someone else. As you grow
up, you realize it’s more fun not to
be thinking about yourself all the time. – Jim Carrey, actor
be thinking about yourself all the time. – Jim Carrey, actor
In the
beginning, the hard part is the nap and the feeding and the schedule and the
playdates. Then when they get older and can wipe their own behind, you’re busy
with emotional issues and developmental issues. I lived every day believing
that kids really need one good parent. I had had a very happy childhood.… I
just wanted my kids to have that.
– Rick Moranis, actor, on being a widowed single father to two children
– Rick Moranis, actor, on being a widowed single father to two children
I want my
son to wear a helmet 24 hours a day. If it was socially acceptable, I’d be the
first one to have my kid in a full helmet and, like, a cage across his face
mask. I make my wife crazy with it because I’m constantly worrying. And he’s
going to find me and my wife incredibly unfunny. – Will Arnett, actor, on son Archibald
“When I was
a boy, my father was a bigger-than-life figure, a wonderful storyteller. He was
my hero. He took me camping and fishing, and instilled in me a love of nature
and the outdoors. I think about the important lessons I want to pass on to my
children and grandchildren — and I realize they are the same lessons I got from
Dad. I can’t help thinking they are not quaint ideas from the past but very
modern ones that we need desperately today.” – David Suzuki, environmentalist
Always be
available to your kids. Because if you say, “Give me five minutes, give me 10
minutes,” it’ll be 15, it’ll be 20. And then when you get there, the shine will
have worn off whatever it is they wanted to share with you. I’ve never gotten
up to see something one of my kids wanted to show me and not been rewarded. – Michael J. Fox, actor, on kids Sam,
Aquinnah, Schuyler and Esme
You gotta be
involved. The other day, I had her on my chest and she peed on me. But babies
are like bunny rabbits. When they pee on you, it means they like you. The first
time I saw her, time stood still. It took my breath away. – Jason Priestley, actor, on daughter Ava