Sexual Healing - Spoken Word Poem by Jeff Bethke

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This challenges the status quo on sex


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"I mean if sex is just for fun

Why does it take such a toll?

Maybe its because you don’t just

 have sex with a body

You  have sex with a soul"

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So let’s look at the subject

I’m gonna tell you why I’m disgusted

So tonight, it looks like sex will be our topic of discussion

Now see, sex isn’t evil, for marriage is why God made it

But I know you’re like “c’mon.. that’s too outdated.”

“This is 2011 bro, we do it for recreation.”

And hey, if you’re in college you do it while you’re wasted.

But I want to question this logic

I want to pop off the seal

I want to question something

that we think is already a done deal

So take a rape victim for example

And once its revealed

When her bruises go away

Is she totally healed?

Nah, the damage is lasting

You can see it in her eyes

But if it was just abused recreation

Why did it ruin her life?

I mean if sex is just for fun

Why does it take such a toll?

Maybe its because you don’t just

 have sex with a body

You  have sex with a soul

Which means for me

There ain’t no pre-marital lovin’

And it ain’t just cause I don’t want a baby in the oven

It’s cause I’m staying pure till the day that I’m a husband

But see, this wasn’t always me

That’s a guarantee

Let’s go back in the past

See who I used to be

Now growing up

I never learned how to treat a lady

If I learned one thing from my dad…

It was leave the mom, ditch the baby

Now I don’t say that to get sympathy

I say that to be real

Because, according to stats,

About 40% of you know how that feels

So I let the T.V. show me

What the music already told me

No dad at home

So I was letting MTV mold me

And they sold me

Which is why my life revolved

Around whatever girl I could get next

My Life revolved around this girl named Sex

Sure I’d get at her on the texts

But I gotta confess

It seemed the longer we dated

The bigger the mess

But then my girlfriend was late

On that time of the month

If you know what I mean you understand

When I say my heart sunk

I started to think about abortion, man

I started to butter it up

But its funny - They don’t just 

make condoms for sin

You can’t just cover it up

It was just a scare

But I knew a father , I didn’t want to be

Its funny how I was pro-life

Until it happened to me

So dudes think twice before you desire her

Just because you think that she’s hot

Cause the truth is – your body makes a promise

Whether you do or not.

Sorry I digressed though

Lets get back to the topic

Now there’s some dude who pressure her

Even when she says stop it

You’re not a man, you’re just a boy that can shave

And you put on a good cover

Cause if you don’t respect her when she says know

You certainly don’t love her

So how about you start studying her heart

Stop studying her booty

Or maybe – invest the same amount 

of time in her

That you do in Call of Duty

Cause what makes you think you can get this girl

And all of a sudden get naughty

Because you should have to touch her heart and her mind first

Before you ever touch her body

Because she longs to be accepted

She longs to be loved

So she gives herself up

To another guy’s lust

She thinks it feels good at her first

But then she gets bitter

Because the promise of satisfaction –

It never delivers

She’s like I don’t want to

But its just too tempting

So she keeps opening up the present

Just to find that its empty

And then she starts to get confused

She keeps getting rejected by all these dudes

They tell her on a scale of 10 – she’s a 2

But that ain’t true. If only she knew.

That Jesus – He loves and accepts us

Even when you don’t want Him, He’ll never reject us

He heals us from that sin that totally infects us

And He does what condoms can’t - He emotionally protects us

And I know some of you here – you’re gonna want to indict me

But we’ve got to think rightly, so I’ll ask politely

Can you  really say this isn’t even true?

Just slightly?

I mean, we touched the forbidden fruit

Just to realize its Poison Ivy

Now we’re numb and we’re itching

And we got a distorted psyche

You don’t think,  you just do it

Like your name was Nike

Not realizing that the consequences of your actions

Are oh so pricey

So this last story though

Is for those who think they’re too dirty

This last story is for those

Who think they’re unworthy

Read John chapter 8

The woman caught in adultery

The religious leaders throw her naked in the Temple

While she yells “Don’t murder me”

They say “Jesus, the Law commands us to stone this woman”

And you hear the hate in their tone

Jesus Pauses then says

“Whoever is without sin – you can cast the first stone”

I mean can you imagine the sound?

Silence all around

You hear footsteps walk away

You hear stones hit the ground

And then Jesus kneels down

The woman thought it was her demise

He lifts up her face

You see the grace in His eyes

He says “I don’t condemn you”

“Go and sin no more”

I love you, I accept you

Mercy is yours

But if you’re anything like me

You’re like “No, that can’t be”

Why would He

Ever die for me?

But you see, then I saw that scene

Where I was redeemed

He reached out and touched me

And said “Jeff, you’re free”

Instantly I was wearing the brightest robe I’d ever seen

I was perfectly spotless. I was perfectly clean.

So bright, in fact, that I thought I’d go blind.

I said “Whose is this?” 

He said “Actually its mine”

So think twice before you eat

What society feeds us

Come follow the King

His name is Jesus!